In response to my Doing All the Thinking post, anythingshesays submitted the following comment.
You needn't do all the arranging. For example, my wife told me she wanted a vacation. I had to present her with a few different ideas and then go from there. I'd check in now and again and we'd discuss options. I did the work, she made the final decisions. Both of us were happy. Tell Dr., in general terms, what you want to do on the date, type of food and let him go from there. Just tell him the level of input you'd like. I'm sure he'll be quite happy doing all the work.
While that might work on your husband, it doesn't always work so well with someone you just met. Sometimes it works, I had an exceptional sub a few years ago who was a true key to the city. He was also the greatest cuck ever and flew me out to see a boy I liked play with his band in another city. I dated this man for under a year, and he spoiled me from the first date. It was a May-August romance. He brought diamonds and wore a tuxedo on our first date. On our second date, he brought two sets of earrings, two necklaces and a ring - for a person he met once. Granted, he's in the jewelery business but I hadn't asked him for anything other than advise, I was thinking of buying a set of peals, turns out I didn't have to. Like a true material girl I gave one set of diamond earrings to a friend along with the necklace and ring, they looked better on her. At the end of the summer, I drove cross country with the boy in the band in his Jetta.
I'm in a delicate position with the Dr. He lives across the country, so second date means somebody has to get on an airplane. I could have told the worlds greatest cuck to fly me cross country for a second date, and it would not have been a problem. He was exceptional, and this is problematic. I have a hard time seeing why a 42 year old single MD should not be as aware as a divorced executive. He's not a research Dr., he is not some freak in a lab all day - he has friends, and I doubt he has problems getting dates.
If I told him to get a chastity device or a webcam, I am certain that he would do it without hesitation. I find that allot of submissive men on the internet have paranoia about being taken advantage of, coupled with a strange entitlement that stuff that people get paid to do (fetish porn, webcams) should be free to them.
I'm looking at being closer to The Dr.'s area in the coming months, to visit family but I simply cannot afford the additional flight, the extra time off alone would be a financial strain. I've hinted about this, I joked that my 08 taxes were no sweat because I hardly worked. I have to be careful, since we met on collarme.com I'm the potential Slutty McDominatrix trying to benefit by spending my precious vacation days getting to know a submissive stranger. I've thought about starting with small stuff, like the small fact that he could send a girl some flowers but that would essentially be sending flowers to myself.
That last paragraph sums up why I'm not here so much. I'm focusing on finding a nice, normal guy I can break and it's actually going fairly well. I'll try to post here weekly, keep following along - I will let you know if anything interesting happens.
Oh, my ex was having his guys weekend (he's a normal, alpha guys-guy around his friends) and took time out of his schedule to pop into a boutique and pick up a bottle of perfume that is made for a particular shop, it sounds fancier than it is - the cost was under $10 but the servitude is in it being a guys weekend and a girls boutique. A $150 bottle from the airport could not carry that sentiment.