Monday, February 23, 2009


Was out of town this weekend, but had a lovely first drink with a potential on Thurs. He's not too troll-ey, has hair and brought flowers - white roses, a wee Jersey for my horticultural preferences, but he gets points for the tribute.



S: (n) tribute, testimonial (something given or done as an expression of esteem)

There are, of course many forms of tribute. payment for calls is a tribute. It shows you have invested interest into the exchange. It does not pay my rent, this is not how I make a living. It is how I prefer fer potential subs to contact me. It's how I met the funny little troll who makes my tummy flip.

Tribute sets the mood - the sub has, thought about what he is going to say to me and has thus prepared himself to speak with me. Tribute could be anything from holding bags to purchasing a expensive purse for a Domme, but - it doesn't have to be expensive. A tribute is a gift, as always it is the thought that counts. It does have to be something thats of no direct benefit to the giver, a dinner or a trip togather is not a tribute. A sub paying for a dinner with me and another man is.

But, back to flowers. I'm looking forward to spring, and lilacs and the funny old french man who sells single stems at the farmers market. A single, well selected bloom is far more special then a store-wrapped bouquet, but who really takes the time to choose?

Every flower has a meaning, looked up the meaning of white roses on this site...

Rose, White: Charm, Secrecy, Silence, You're Heavenly, Reverence, Humility, Youthfulness and Innocence

All good things.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

Happy V day from Princess Caitlin and Jimmy Choo

Spring 2009 booties from Jimmy Choo. I love a non-traditional boot, these would be great with a hot black jersey dress...

also loving these

and these

Thursday, February 12, 2009

Whats this Call Now thing all about.

Thats a link to my NiteFlirt account, it's a 800 relay service. Yes, it's a legit site. No, I am not going to go all punch drunk love on you.

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

When We Were Young

My first memory of dominating a boy is throwing little scottie into the girls bathroom. I had decided his schoolyard cred was due to his tall blond, athletic and dominant brother, Ross. Some friends and I got together and pushed little scottie into the girls room, he fell on the floor. We were laughing and I blocked the door. Some of the girls thought we would get in trouble, so we released him - just as Ross was walking by. Ross said "what are you doing??" all little scott scott could say was "I don't know".

Tuesday, February 10, 2009

Sustainable Kink

Been mulling this over for a few days....

Most of my D/s relationships have been on the casual end of the spectrum, that may be largely due to the fact that I have kept this part of my life as my little secret, something that can be locked in a box and pushed under the bed when I'm not using it. Part of this is also how I meet my subs, craigslist is not a high commitment website. Most of the guys I meet want to keep that experience in a box, they contact me when they want to scratch that itch. Because I'm not dating my subs, I can use a man who is too old or unappealing for boyfriend purposes.

Submissive men have no mystery, no challenge. Years ago I had a submissive boyfriend, but I was honestly too young and inexperienced to know what that really meant. In more recent years sub males have been my playthings, my punching bags, my muses, my secret cheering section.

Now that I have met a charming young sub that makes my tummy flutter, I am wondering - do we have the foundation for sustainable relationship? We did meet on a kink site, but we did not meet up for "play time". We met for lunch. He's not someone who call himself a sub, but I don't call myself a Domme in my daily life. Everything seems to match up, or is this something we'll want to box up in a few months?

Monday, February 9, 2009

Crushing Revelations

So, there is one submissive guy I am - I guess the term is experimenting with.

He's someone who has followed me on another site (another story for another day). He's a NYer, we have done lunch, drinks and Saturday was our first evening date.

It's good to be adored, this person has adored me from afar for months. I guess I am struggling with concerns about things changing as I become a real person to him. It's the first time I have had the butterflies in years.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

The Rules

Kate Webb has an interesting blog, I am looking forward to reading more from her. Like me, Kate is a "vanilla" girl by day, and her partner is just a normal guy (not a floorlicker or a sissymaid). I've been chatting with Kate, talking bout what makes a good slave and the irony in the fact that most men who identify as submissive lack basic manners.

Kate makes a great analogy here to regular old dating,"We have something men want. This gives us incredible power over them. Any woman who has been on a first date understands this. The men bend over backwards to please our doors, bring us gifts, listen to our conversations, buy the expensive wine, and whip out their amex cards and pay for everything."

Thats how a normal, Alpha male behaves on a first date. The average internet submissive wants to come on over and sit at your feet, if he's feeling especially formal - maybe coffee. How ironic that the pigs of our society are more adept at Goddess Worshipers than those obsessed with the idea of it. Oh, the irony...

Years ago, a book called The Rules was popular. It preached the stuff your Mom and Grandma always told you to do, or more specifically - not to do. It's in-depth instructions on how not to put out. Ever.

Real, lifestyle Dommes are Rules Girls.

Friday, February 6, 2009

Greeting and Degregations

Hello boys and Girls. I'm Princess Caitlin, the cruel hipster next door (if you happen to live in lower Manhattan). It's February and I am feeling very cold, I've been seeking my idea sub/cuck - with little success. I'm probably looking in the wrong place (craigslist) but thats mostly because it's convenient and can post/search from work without raising any red flags.

Years ago (2004) I did a brief stint as a ProDomme, I was in school and a friend brought me along to one of the now-defunct FootWorshipParties. Initially, the FootWorship scene was fun and fresh, the guys were happy that someone could address their fetish and were willing to do anything for a chance to be at My feet. Very quickly, over a matter of months, the parties because over-crowded, many slaves stopped acting the part, and I left the parties for good. Subsequently I have seen a surge of FootFetish imagery in advertising, and in mainstream porn. This has not been good for the little men who love feet, they see two airbrushed co-eds sucking each others feet on the pages of maxim and think that kind of shit really happens. News flash - it only happens in porn.

The mainstreaming of foot fetish has lead me to broaden my horizons, for me, D/s is about one person being forced out of his comfort zone - to please or amuse the other. Foot worship is not degrading enough, it's too much fun for the submissive. What really boggles me about foot fetishists is how little they know about feet in general - the spine is mapped in the arch of the foot, someone who really knows what he is doing could relax your whole body with a quality foot rub, sadly - most simply do not know what they are doing.